If you could go back and change one thing in your life, would you? This cliche question always seems to be answered with “No, I wouldn’t. My life would not be what it is today. I have no regrets.” How about another perspective...
Regrets are painted to be menacing dark creatures that linger in the back of our minds. We are taught that we should not live life with regrets. Yet, regrets are a normal part of life and if used correctly, can actually lead to our empowerment. Look at regrets as the opportunity for reflections, an opportunity to address a moment in life when we felt we did not act to the best of our abilities, a moment where we should of stood up and spoken our minds, or a moment where we did not act with proper intentions. It takes maturity and self awareness to acknowledge the areas in our lives that need improvement. By recognizing and addressing these regrets, we are not changing the events that occurred in our lives. Actually, we can never do that (Unless you have the secret calculation for time travel. In that case, why have you not share it with the world). We are solely reflecting on our decisions.
The point is not to allow these regrets to hold us back, but to use them as our inspirations for the future. Look at your regrets as life gifting you an opportunity to be proactive and productive. Take the teachings you learned and apply them actively to the life ahead of you. You do not have to make the same choice twice if you do not want to. Consider how you can turn your regrets into goals for growth and improvement. We are all humans and we make mistakes, there is no blueprint to life. However, only you have the ability to turn those feelings into opportunities for wisdom. When you begin to change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.
Written By: Stephany Arroyo